My flat ass rules (2020)

Flat Ass Rules

Fit as a Fiddle iconBack in January, I wrote my ten commandments for 2020 and called them ‘My flat ass rules’. (The term ‘flat ass rules’ borrowed from General Jim Mattis, former Secretary of Defense.) For today’s Fit as a Fiddle Friday, I thought I would do a quick check-in.

Sort of a self-critiquing, “Okay gPage, How are doing?”
My flat ass rules (2020)
  • Succeed at home first
  • Seek and merit divine help
  • Seek wise counsel
  • Build and use a challenge network
  • Listen to my spouse (woman’s intuition)
  • Live substantially below our income
  • Have courage and strength at work
  • Be kind and compassionate to others
  • Learn something new every day
  • Forgive and let go

I feel good about most of these. If I had to pick one area to improve, it would be number four: Build and use a challenge network. I’ve been thinking about who I would want to include in a challenge network at Autodesk, but I have not (as of yet) taken action.

Adam Grant describes a challenge network this way:

Your challenge network should be the people who will tell you that you’re not quite where you need to be. These are the people that will push you because they care about helping you get better.

Do you have people who play a role like this in your life?

[Postscript: See Hell Yeah or no, 18 Nov 2024 post.]

[Icons by youngest, Lucy Singletary Barfield @lucybarfieldcreative.]

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